Can You Have a Perfect Relationship?

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Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship? A relationship that has no fights or issues? It would be nice, but in reality, it is almost impossible to have that type of relationship. Different beliefs, interests, and habits can cause small issues between two people, no matter how happy they are. The truth is while you can’t have a perfect relationship without a few issues here and there, you can have a relationship that allows you to get through those issues smoothly and maintain a happy relationship.

Understand Your Differences

Many issues in relationships happen because of differences in opinions. For example, you may think that the law of attraction is real and want to live by its rules, and your partner may think that the law of attraction is hooey and laughs at you when you mention it. There is no right or wrong person. There are only two different opinions that are clashing now. Once you realize that you both see things differently, and then you will be able to recognize that your partner is coming from a different place than you, and that there is no other place they can come from. They have become who they are from their experiences in life, and they are not wrong, they are just different than you. Once you start to allow them to be themselves, you will stop expecting them to believe or think a certain way, and instead you will allow them to be themselves. Then you will be able to eliminate a ton of issues that cause your perfect relationship to suffer. You will be on your way to a near perfect relationship that has two individual, unique and happy people in it.

Support Each Other

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In a perfect relationship, support would be abundant. Part of understanding that your partner has different beliefs, habits, and ideas than you is supporting them in them. You may not believe in the law of attraction, but that doesn’t mean that you should make them feel bad because they do. If you do not support your partner then they will feel disconnected from you. There are so many people in life who already don’t support them in their decisions, goals, and thoughts, and you are supposed to be the one person they can always count on for an encouraging word. When you don’t come through, then the bond that holds you together can start to weaken. However, if you offer your partner encouraging words and let them go after their goals and dreams, then they will feel as though they have a solid support system, even if the rest of the world doesn’t believe in them. If you want to have a perfect relationship that stays strong in the tough times, then support will help you stay united. This unity is a special part of a healthy intimate relationship and without it; a relationship can start to crumble fast.

Spend Time Together

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Work, school, family, friends, TV, Internet, and so much more can take away from your time with your partner. Too much time apart can cause a feeling of disconnect in the relationship. When issues arise, that disconnect can cause a lot of problems. In a perfect relationship, you would enjoy spending time together and make time for it every day. You would make time between work and bedtime to spend a few hours together. Quality time is what counts here. Not just watching TV together, but talking, sharing, and laughing. Spending quality time together allows you to share your lives together. It allows you to feel as if you are growing together day by day.

 How to deal with a Selfish Girlfriend

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             A relationship can very well turn into a nightmare if your girl friend turns out to be selfish. In this situation, it is not always a necessity to eject out of the relationship.
If you really want to make a relationship work with a selfish girl, there are some things that you can do. Read on to find out more.

1. Point Out

More often than not girls don’t even realize that they are acting selfish at the expense of their partner. It might help if you make your girl realize of her selfish deeds preferably in a subtle manner. However, don’t be incessant and try to work out your way slowly and gradually.

2. Talk it Out

It may also be possible that by acting selfish, your girlfriend will be trying to prove a point or hint you something. Try to initiate a conversation with your girlfriend to find out if there is actually something that is bothering her. Also ensure that both of you are on the same page regarding each other’s priorities.

3. Draw Boundaries

It is important to lay down a set of ground rules if you are dating a selfish girlfriend. You cannot let your girl walk all over you and then regret it later. Try to make it apparent to your girlfriend that you surely care for her and her priorities, but you cannot be taken for granted.

4. Offer Help

If your girlfriend is in fact selfish, you can also help her rise above this flaw of hers. By trying to make her a better person, you will be enhancing her and your own life too. You can start by making her realize that she is selfish and then help her bring a change in herself. Encouraging her to join self-help groups and read books can also help.

5. Provide Motivation

Tales of extraordinary personalities of the likes of Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela can also inspire selflessness in a person. You can also encourage her to do charity or social work to acquaint her with the joy of giving. No person is biologically selfish; it is only one’s experiences that make him/her cynical and selfish. By inspiring selflessness in your girlfriend, you can show her the larger way of living life.

6. Give her an Ultimatum

You can always exploit your position as her boyfriend and make threats to break the relationship. If she really cares for you, she will make that effort to bring about a change in herself. However, for your threat to work, it should seem to be veritable one.
It is a well-known fact that every relationship requires compromise. However, the compromise should only extend to a certain limit. There are people who never change no matter how hard you try to change them. The final resort is to break the chains and put yourself out of the misery of bearing a selfish girlfriend.

 

Share Your Common Interests

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Spending time together each day is important. And spending time together doing things that you both love is different, but equally important. Common interests are what brought you two together. They are what got you talking during that first meeting, and they are what caused you to want a first, second, and tenth date. Without common interests, you would never have gotten together. Now that you are in a relationship, they are still important! Sharing your interests together allows you to connect on a different level. When you participate in something you are interested in by yourself, you feel good afterwards. When you participate in something you are interested in with your partner, you feel good about yourself and your partner afterwards. In addition, sharing a part of your life with your partner is essential to keep the bond strong. Without it, you can start to feel as two separate units who don’t have much in common. That feeling can bring any relationship down and cause issues, both small and big.

In conclusion, a perfect relationship does not exist. There will always be issues that arise in the relationship. However, once you understand that you are both unique, and you start to support that uniqueness, you will have a better time working through the majority of issues that arise. Spending time together will also help you strengthen your bond in the perfect relationship for a happier and healthier unity.

 

 

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